Life Lessons I Want My Son to Learn Before he Becomes a Man


Lessons of Life

Life is full of lessons. Some of them we have no choice but to learn the hard way. Some just seem pointless and cruel. It’s lessons and life experiences that shape us into who we are and who we will become. When I look at the world it’s hard, harsh even. I see my son my little boy and he’s innocent, not yet tainted by life. I want him to grow up into a worthy man. Hardworking, kind-hearted and not afraid to be himself. I realised that some of these lessons are ones I need to teach him.

Here are some of them:Lessons-I-want-my-son-to-learn-before-he-becomes-a-man

  1. Be Kind Always – If you see someone upset, comfort them. If someone is left out, include them. Even if someone is rude to you hold your head up and be the kind person you are.
  2. Be Especially Kind to Yourself – Laugh at your mistakes, rest when you need to and don’t beat yourself up too much.
  3. Don’t be Afraid to Dream – Dream big, dream often but don’t just be a dreamer. Take those dreams and make them a reality.
  4. Sometimes a Lie Feels Kinder in the short-term but it hurts far more in the long run.
  5. Forgive– You don’t have to forget. Forgiveness doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you stronger.
  6. Live Everyday – You only get one chance at this!!
  7. Heartbreak Happens– It gets easier but remember the pain and be gentle with the hearts of others.
  8. Judge People Only by Their Character – Race, religion, gender, sexuality etc don’t define a person, their character does.
  9.  Love from Your Heart Always – It can be the admiration of flowers in bloom, the closeness to a good friend or the moment you look into your own child’s eyes but mean it and make sure it’s from the heart.
  10. Be You – Don’t let society, bullies, ignorance or events change that. Always be authentic and real to who you are.


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  1. Laurel Noelle
    23rd January 2017 / 11:37 pm

    These are such lovely qualities in people, it is wonderful you are trying to instill them within your son from a young age. So sweet ?

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:06 pm

      Aw thank you so much xx

  2. jentheodorej
    24th January 2017 / 3:15 am

    Great list. I want many of the same things for my son too. He’s 13 now and growing up so fast!

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:05 pm

      Doesn’t the time just fly by 🙁 I feel like only yesterday I was pregnant! xx

  3. moderatemum
    24th January 2017 / 7:09 pm

    These feel like some pretty solid goals! I could probably do with a review of a couple of them too x

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:04 pm

      I felt exactly the same writing them! Good to step back and have a reality check every now and then! xx

  4. Author Brandi Kennedy
    24th January 2017 / 9:29 pm

    It’s refreshing to see lists like this, ones that acknowledge how much a mother means to her child in terms of who they are when they grow up. Because it’s true – they don’t learn kindness and compassion on their own, it must be taught and shown to them by the example of their parents and families. We as mothers are so powerful these days, and we have so much chance to influence the world we’re creating – we owe it to ourselves to make sure we’re trying to create a good one.

    Great post!

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:03 pm

      Absolutely! So important to influence them in the right areas! x

  5. Brittany
    24th January 2017 / 11:46 pm

    This was a really sweet post. It’s so important to teach our boys values that will help them as they grow into men, fathers, and husbands. I especially love #9.

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:03 pm

      That’s exactly how I feel!! Thank you xx

  6. anne | onedeterminedlife
    25th January 2017 / 3:11 am

    My son just turned one and these are all things I want him to learn as well

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:02 pm

      I think as parents we all want whats best for our children and tem being the best version of themselves is so important! x

  7. therusticfive
    25th January 2017 / 11:50 am

    This is a great list. I really want to instill these into my kiddos too. We need more kindness in the world.

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:01 pm

      We really do especially in our younger generation x

  8. Dad Whats 4 Dinner
    25th January 2017 / 12:46 pm

    Good advice for your young man. Good lessons for all!

    • sophiegw
      25th January 2017 / 8:00 pm

      Aw you’re too kind! Thank you x

  9. Planq Studio
    26th January 2017 / 7:38 pm

    I just had a boy 6 months ago. I really want him to grow up to be a respectful and stand up man.

    • sophiegw
      27th January 2017 / 8:43 pm

      I am sure he will be! x

  10. sophiegw
    27th January 2017 / 8:43 pm

    That really means such a lot thank you so much!! xx

  11. Sian Davies
    1st January 2020 / 6:43 pm

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